For most of us, life is a constant revolving door of people. Not necessarily friends, but coworkers, clients, or even just people who serve us when we go out to eat. We acquaint for a passing moment, and then our time is up. These people don’t really change us or effect us in any way. And they aren’t meant to.
Others we meet, though, become friends for life, or even, sometimes, enemies.
The beauty of this planet we live on, is that everybody is different – no two people are the same, and that makes us special. Sometimes these differences find us long-lasting friendships and soulmates. Often times they find us at odds with others.
As we grow older, we lose the strength to hold on to the people who subconsciously don’t matter all that much to us. For whatever the reason, the bond that holds us with these people disintegrates like old glue – what used to be an unbreakable friendship almost overnight becomes a relationship in which we really don’t have much in common. Our stamina and the dose of energy we are given each day must be better focused and better spent.
I recently made a decision to remove a couple of people from my life. Well, I guess I didn’t really decide.. It just sort of happened – a couple of my booze-based friendships came to a screeching halt. At first, I was devastated. Even though there was a lot that I didn’t have in common with these girls, they were still my friends and it still hurts to lose people that you care about.
But after only a few hours without these people in my life, I realized that I was completely unaffected. My days continued on just as they had before those people came into my life – the only difference being that my phone was a bit quieter than I’d become accustomed to.
The point I’m trying to get to here is, don’t waste your time and energy on salvaging relationships with people that you know deep down won’t last. Your time and focus is definitely better spent building and working on the relationships that you know are going to last you a lifetime.
You deserve to be happy. If that means purging people from your life, then so be it. I’m sure you’ve all heard the famous quote that goes, “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission.” Don’t be dragged down by other people’s problems and dramas.. Break away and be grateful that you are working towards a happier and healthier you!