Most days when I get home from work my brain is buzzing full of blog ideas. I look forward to my evening runs with Bella because it helps me sort out my thoughts – I actually start writing posts in my head while I run.
Nine times out of ten, though, I start writing these posts and then never end up publishing them. Either I run out of steam, or a better idea pops into my head and I get that one out the door first.
Today, however, I knew exactly what I wanted to post about. All day long I was just itching to get home so I could get my fingers on my keyboard and start typing out this post.
I wanted to focus my topic today on the mindset of staying positive, and how important it is.
I would consider myself a pretty positive person. I have very little patience for negativity and Debbie Downers – I find myself trying to turn other people’s negativity into something positive. The silver lining, if you will.
Let me just preface this by saying, I do not keep people in my life unless they bring something positive to it. But what brought this to mind was some conversations recently with a couple of girl friends of mine. They are close friends – one of them a best friend – I communicate with them both on a daily basis [and if not daily then every other day]. Per usual with females, we can generally discuss just about everything. At length. For hours and hours.
Both of these friends also tend to dwell on negative points or incidents in their lives. Not necessarily in your typical “Debbie Downer” way, but more so in a way that brings far too much attention to something that is really just mundane in the grand scheme of things.
For example: having a horrendous day at work and continuing to fume about it for several days after the fact. I get it. Rough day. We’ve ALL been there. But the world keeps spinning. Life goes on. And all of that brain space you’re wasting on this one single day, or maybe one single incident is keeping you from enjoying all of life’s GOOD moments.
I understand that it’s harder for some people to let shit go than it is for others. I, myself, have definitely had my fair share of things that just sit stewing in my mind for days, weeks, months. But as I get older I am actively trying and implementing more ways to stay positive and see the beauty that life has to offer.
Here are some of the things I like to do to keep that positivity going:
GET OUTSIDE. It’s the way humankind started. We are hardwired to enjoy the great outdoors. Whether you’re faithful or believe in evolution, the beginning of human life began with outdoor habitats. We gardened, we wandered the earth, we hunted, we were forced to endure all sorts of animals and elements. We were one with nature. It makes nothing but sense that being outside would have a natural, calming effect. Breathe in the fresh air, enjoy the peace and the eclectic sounds that only nature can provide.
Exercise. Well, duh. We all know how I feel about this. Exercise produces endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. And even if that means you just get on a treadmill and walk for a mile – it’s something to get you up and moving and it gets that blood flowing!
Read something! Read a book. Read a magazine. Read a newspaper or blog. READ! It stimulates your brain in a good way. Not to mention it’s distracting if you find something that completely engulfs your attention. And you can do it anywhere. Your closest Starbucks, the park, a restaurant – I am constantly going out to eat by myself and enjoying a good book while I do it.
EAT GOOD FOOD. I’m serious. Ever think about why we eat when we’re upset? Or where the term “comfort food” comes from? Or “food coma?” It’s because the process of eating and digesting is simultaneously relaxing us and giving us energy. And I’m not talking about wandering over to McDonalds and ordering a McDouble with a chocolate shake [while I’ll agree that does sound good, that is NOT good food]. Treat yo’self, people! Go out to a fancy shmancy dinner and order the Surf ‘N Turf. Get some pals to go with you if you don’t want to go alone. Even if it costs an arm and a leg – you’re worth it!
Find and follow positive Instagram profiles and bloggers. I am always on the hunt for positive and motivating quotes and people. Positive energy is infectious. Contagious! I get addicted to finding uplifting quotes and profiles and screenshotting things that I like. And every once in a while I’ll come across one in my photo library and it’s like an instant gratifying ping to my heart.
QUIT DRINKING!!! [If you are a drinker, that is. Whatever your vice is, cut back or stop completely.] I’m telling you, this may, quite honestly, change your life. Alcohol [and drugs] is equally a mask and an amplifier. I have been a victim to both drinking to forget something, and drinking because I’m pissed off or upset about something. Neither boasts a positive outcome. Because, GUESS WHAT – the problems are still there when you sober up. And no amount of drinking can make them go away. And the bonus here is, when you no longer abuse substances, your problems don’t seem all that difficult anymore.
Cut drama and dramatic people out of your life. This one may be tied with first place for cutting back on your vices. I know it’s a bit daunting because we all have this fear that we are going to end up bored with serious FOMO. Let me tell you something about purging the bad people from your life – it is CLEANSING. It’s like wiping the slate clean. It’s like suddenly every reason you ever had for being unhappy and unsatisfied just dissipated into thin air. No joke. It just becomes a bad memory.
I could honestly go on and on and create a list miles long, but those are for sure my top favs. Just remember to stay positive, people!
Live is too, TOO short to let things fester and bring you down. Don’t let the unimportant become so big that it distracts you from the things that are important.
Every day our lives get shorter [I know, I know, a bit negative there], so don’t waste a SINGLE, PRECIOUS MOMENT.
Look at it this way: if it’s not going to end up on your gravestone, is it really that big of a deal?