Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about temptation. What it is, why it exists..
Why does it exist??
And why does it make us bad people if we give in to it?
As an example, let’s talk about how difficult it is to eat healthy every day. You have to plan a meal, go to the store, buy all of the necessary ingredients, and then cook the meal, eat it, and clean up after yourself. And half the time, the meal isn’t even all that good, but all of that work went into it anyway – and with so little reward. And for what?
I mean, c’mon – it’s EXHAUSTING.
And THEN, on top of that, we berate the fuck out of ourselves for then giving in to our innermost desires, like, a portion of ice cream after said meal. Or a chocolate bar. You get the idea.
That is why I don’t watch what I eat. I mean, I DO, to an extent, and I exercise [occasionally], but I try not to overthink what I eat because, in my opinion, you only live once. You should enjoy life, enjoy the food you put into your body. INDULGE.
But there it is again – indulgence. Giving in to temptation, is it not?
So what is life, then? A constant bombardment of temptation? A series of crossroads that determine your moral code based on whether or not you give in to your guilty pleasures?
It just doesn’t seem fair.
But then, on the flip side of things, does giving in to temptation when it comes to relationships produce the same level of guilt that eating chocolate when we’re dieting does? Does it even compare?
I think it’s fair to say that most of us, at one time or another, have experienced a relationship with a person that has left a mark on our souls. It could be a friendly relationship, a romantic one, even just a work relationship. A relationship in which something happened that left an impression – something good, maybe; something bad. Something. And we don’t ever forget these people, or what their impact was on our lives.
So what do we do, then, if these people always linger in the back of our minds? Do we just try and forget about them and move on? Do we try and rekindle old flames? Repair a broken friendship?
And would the guilt of trying outweigh their constant presence on our conscious? Or vice versa?
Let’s go with the ever-familiar scenario of “The One Who Got Away.”
Don’t even say you’ve never had one. We all have.
We often think of them, but we’ve accepted the fact that it just didn’t work out. And we move on.
The one that got away returns! But you’ve moved on. New relationship, new chapter, new life. But the “one”!
But the timing.. It’s just so, SO bad.
What do you do? What should you do?
Is there really a right or wrong answer?
For most of us, our guilty conscious would balk at the idea of giving that person another opportunity, right? If you’re happy now, why would you even risk it?
There’s always that lingering, “What if.”
Only the two most controversial words when it comes to temptation and guilty pleasures.
What if I didn’t eat this ice cream? I’d feel so much better tomorrow.
But, what if I *did* eat this ice cream? It would taste SO GOOD right now.
What if I gave our friendship another shot? I miss how much fun we used to have..
What if I didn’t? I remember how much we argued because we didn’t see eye-to-eye.
Do we ever know what the right decision is? And is our decision based solely on emotion, or do we need to factor in logic, too?
The ongoing struggle for dominance between the head and the heart.
“I can resist everything except temptation.” — Oscar Wilde
Which do you guys answer to? I’m curious to know how you deal with temptation and whether or not you ever give in to it. Would love feedback!